So there's a pretty good chance you'll have heard me say a few times through the course up until know
that people will not change in life until their desire to change becomes greater than their desire to
remain the same.
And this is very very true.
I didn't change in life until I was absolutely sick and tired of living in the way in which I was living.
All right I think I mentioned earlier on didn't I that I had this awakening.
One day I think around about 29 or 30 years old and the way in which I've been living my life was just
so completely self consumed.
I was such a selfish man back then didn't care about anyone else apart from myself and what I could
get from other people.
And it was really arriving at this place where I was just completely sick of myself and change just
became the practical next step.
Change was in even not an option I thought makes sense.
So what we've done through this section and the last up until now we've had a few conversations with
Karen.
Karen who is being a very very good client for demonstration purposes.
And I think I'd probably hazard a guess at some of the conversations with hard up until now have been
a little bit raw.
We've kind of gone to the deeper place Karen has completely taken responsibility for that which is true
for her that it isn't low confidence to blame to the reason why she hasn't got some of the outcomes
that she's got.
She's wanted so far in life and Karen's ability to communicate well with a group setting or deliver
a live public talks got nothing to do with her confidence has everything to do with her apathy and laziness
move.
My goodness.
All right.
What I think to take responsibility for.
But if you did answer those questions from a couple of videos was back or the last video whenever that
was there's a pretty good chance you'll have identified some areas if you will life that you could really
benefit from taking responsibility for two.
All right.
None of us are there yet.
We're all on this journey of personal growth aren't we.
We self manage as we become more self aware when we become more self aware of the part that we're playing
and the demise of our own life.
We then start adapting on the just thing and changing automatically.
But we all need to start somewhere don't we.
So this this process is something that I would generally guide a client through once their desire to
change has in fact become greater than their desire to remain the same once they've taken responsibility
for the real reasons why they don't have the outcomes in life that they want.
This is more of a mental imagery exercise.
All right.
So even in the coaching contest context what I would do is I would generally just sit next to my client
and say right.
Close your eyes I want you just to kind of picture the kind of environments that you're going to be
in where you are performing and doing this thing that you want to do or being this person that you want
to be and then going to ask them to and to accurately and vividly describe it.
All right.
I wanted to really picture this person that they've been right now this can be quite.
Kind of like a hypnotic trance like exercise.
All right.
The mental imagery and an exercise such as this makes mix change and the necessity for change a real
tangible reality.
All right.
Remember a person with a vision will stand the risk of going round and round in circles for a long long
time.
So once a client has a grounded vision for who they're going to become or what they're going to go on
to accomplish and setting goals and taking care of the practicalities is just the next step.
All right.
So first things first when I'm having a conversation with a client we're getting to look at their environment
where there aren't an awful when with whom they are.
What's the external factors are or constraints that are impacting them at this stage where they're being
this person they want to be then we look at their behavior what they're doing what they're saying and
the performance their actions the reactions that they might be getting from other people in the environment
that they're in.
And then we're getting them to hone in on their capabilities i.e. how they are doing what they're doing
how well they're doing what they're doing whether there's any areas that they can still work to improve
what knowledge they have what skills they've already acquired their competencies how competent they
are or how competent they are becoming and then want to look up at their values and the beliefs the
reasons why they're doing this thing.
The reason why they're committing to this course of action in their in their life and why this is important
to them how is taking their values.
How was meeting their needs.
How was perhaps meeting the needs of other people and then we're looking at their identity who they
are being here for other people and how well they are being received then from here we're looking at
what purpose living and this way is is actually serving.
What is the biggest picture.
What impact what difference did they make and is live in life in this way meaningful for them.
All right.
No I appreciate you're not really gonna be able to fully grasp what I'm talking about.
This is just me demonstrating or pretty much discussing a demonstration I'm about to take current through.
So up until now we've looked at the limiting beliefs with look to explore Khan's thought patterns of
use Socratic questions.
We've used to questions and to find limiting beliefs and I'm hoping that by now we've really created
or stirred something inside of current where she really is actively ready to start changing.
So this exercise is all about helping Curran to establish a compelling vision for her future not just
what she's going to go on to do but also who she is going to go on to become.
Because with a compelling vision for a person's that it was both parents got a compelling vision for
the future they're going to find it a lot easier to continue to make the changes that they need to make
to get away from where the right in the present state and closer towards where they want to be in this
desired state.
If that makes sense.
All right so we've explained this well.
There is a workbook that you can download any additional materials section.
And again this is something else that you can build into your repertoire of life coach and resources
when you start having sessions such as this.
Your clients are realistically going to leave the time that they spend with you feel an extremely empowered
if you ask them for feedback after sessions such as this they're going to say things like my goodness
I just feel like I have absolute clarity on who I want to be and the direction that I want to take my
life and to be honest with you.
That is the exact response that we're looking to get after the next demonstration that I do with current
SO told the workbook and Just familiarize yourself with the process.
And it's not like I'm going to be work into a script and the next video but rather I'm just going to
be leading Curran through these six different levels of vision and interpersonal change.